1.People do not have static personalities or behavior. How you treat them influences how they act and respond. See, believe, and expect the best in people and they will rise to the occasion.
2.Things that I worked for but didn’t get ended up being a blessing. PWC, Salesforce, USC, etc.
3.Sometimes you need to uplevel your thinking – what is the ultimate goal or purpose here? Other times you need to down-level and get more specific – how will you actually accomplish the goal and what actions are most essential?
4.Spend time around only people who give you energy in the interaction, not people who you feel like you have to hold back on. Explode open.
5.The answer is often in pieces from both sides. Both extremes have validity. Take the best and balance it. Multiple reasons can explain one outcome. Avoid false dichotomies.
6.Think more long term. The most efficient route is to give and add value. People will trust you more, manage you less, and opportunities will come back to you.
7.Positive cycle/snowball effect: Work to improve on the things you value, to the extent that people notice your improvement/efficacy, which will cause them to vocalize back to you the respective characteristics (e.g. “you are smart”), which in turn will program your subconscious and will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You will actually become that person.
1.Data: Classic study with dumb and bright students from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
2.Goethe taught, “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.”
8.MENTORS / GOAL-MODELS: Hang around, converse with, and learn from people older and more experienced, and of different cultures than yourself, in any facet of life. Leverage their knowledge and perspectives to create a force multiplier for your own personal growth; why re-invent the lightbulb if someone else has already figured XYZ out for you.
9.Everything is connected and related somehow. Often times improving or hurting yourself in one domain will spill over to another. (Confidence would be a prime example).
10.When you have things that are bothering you, write down what they are, why you are grateful for the problem (how it actually has benefited you), and what you are going to do about it.