Understand you are not your mind: Observe negative thoughts, rather than tying them to your identity. You will notice they are tied to your ego and will no longer bear influence on you.
Have a mind that is open to everything and attached to nothing.
You are not your thoughts. They are objects that can be manipulated depending on how you respond (reinforcement of positive or negative thoughts/beliefs).
Change your mindset from what can I get from each person you meet/have a relationship with to what can you give them. The universe will then open up for you.
Never put someone on a pedestal as it is telling yourself he or she is better than you and you are not good enough. Even the richest people have deep issues like the rest of us, for example. Don’t lower your own self-worth.
Self-affirmations (affirming what you know to be true about your or your definite assets) are much more efficacious when we are feeling down than positive affirmations (too generic) which only work when we have high self-esteem at that point in time.
Stop and pause for 20 seconds anytime something bad or inconvenient happens to you so you can numb yourself instead negatively reacting.
Water has memory. It can capture positive or negative energy. So since you body is made of water, and your subconscious is always on, negative self talk really hurts us. Be cognizant of anytime you say “I am” as you are programming your subconscious mind which will create the reality.
For attitude and beliefs, use “but” to your favor to make affirmations more effective and believable. I am shy but I’m meeting the right people vs. I’m an extrovert.
Gratitude kills fear and anger. Embody as much as possible.
You don’t chose what happens to you, you chose how to respond.
“Trade your expectations for appreciation.”
Always protect your gratitude and your confidence.
Think of life as a game, which erases excessive fear and stress. Do your best, but don’t be overly attached. You will lose everything you have. And it all starts all over for the next person.
“It turns out that when I graduated from high school, I had already used up 93% of my in-person parent time. I’m now enjoying the last 5% of that time. We’re in the tail end.”
Use positive not negative affirmations. Don’t use the word not. Don’t say don’t x. You have to think of X to not think of it after.
One heuristic for distinguishing stuff that matters is to ask yourself whether you’ll care about it in the future. Fake stuff that matters usually has a sharp peak of seeming to matter. That’s how it tricks you. The area under the curve is small, but its shape jabs into your consciousness like a pin.
Don’t be so impressed in people. You can do it to, or 10x better, with systematic improvement. Don’t be so impressed.
Reframe your anxiety and nervousness before a performance as you are just readying yourself, which is true. Need adrenaline for optimal performance.
Don’t identify with or wrestle with negative thoughts. Raise your consciousness by observing them until they run themselves out. The more you fight it the more active it becomes.
Successful people learn the lessons from their mistakes and failures and pain endured. Unsuccessful people complain and pity themselves.
Self-talk for high performance and to avoid performance anxiety: use your first name instead of “I” as this detaches yourself to a degree.