A Message by George Carlin: The Paradox of Our Time

A Message by George Carlin: The Paradox of Our Time

I read this “message” roughly once a year to remind myself of what matters most and to remain grounded as possible. It’s incisive and deeply profound. Enjoy, share, and reflect. Comedians are the smartest and most perceptive people on the planet, in my opinion, like creative polymath Jim Carrey. They see the truth, as displayed in the message below, and put a coat of humor on it to ease the delivery and bypass our mental biases.


A Message by George Carlin

The Paradox of Our Time

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints.
We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time;
We have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry too quickly, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too seldom, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life; we’ve added years to life, not life to years.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor.
We’ve conquered outer space, but not inner space.
We’ve done larger things, but not better things.
We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.
We’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We write more, but learn less.
We plan more, but accomplish less.
We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait.
We build more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever, but have less communication.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; tall men, and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.
These are days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes.
These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throw-away morality, one-night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer to quiet, to kill.
It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stockroom; a time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

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Table of Contents

  • Friends & Self
  • Charisma & Attraction
  • Romance & Women
  • Narcissism & Psychopathy
  • Family
  • Dishonesty Detection / Reading People

Friends & Self

  • People remember not what you said, but how you made them feel.
  • “Overeager enthusiasm and uncoordinated energy” – Tucker Max
  • (Winning over a cop, friendship seduction) “I just asked him questions about what he seemed to want to talk about, reinforced his opinions on those issues, avoided any conflict, and always acted interested in what he said, without being overly obsequious about it.” – Tucker Max
  • People treat you the way you train them to treat you. Change your communication to change your relationship.
  • How To Speak Effectively: HAIL
    • 1.Honesty: be clear and straight
    • 2.Authenticity: be yourself
    • 3.Integrity: be your word (DWYSYWD)
    • 4.Love: wish them well, good intentions
  • Seek ESS – Evolutionarily Stable Strategy. Example: Cow eats the grass, but the grass is designed to utilize the cow’s saliva for propagation. Seek the balance in life and be neither too aggressive nor too complacent in attempting to get your way.
  • Determining one’s commitment (to a goal, job, relationship, etc., this is beyond a question of willpower)
    • 1.Treasures: what you like / get out of it
    • 2.Troubles: what you don’t like
    • 3.Contribution: how much you have already invested (money, emotionally, etc.)
    • 4.Perceived Options: how many other better options you think you have or could have
  • Be quick to acknowledge when you were wrong or messed up. People are finely tuned to justice so they need to hear that when they think you were wrong.
  • Don’t say “ahah” or “mhm” when listening since unconsciously people will think you are less intelligent. Just stay silent and look at them.
  • The small talk is the big talk. Build rapport naturally. Be human.
  • We are all resistant to change and change ideas access our prefrontal cortex which gets overloaded and the overwhelm causes anger towards the person trying to help you.  Baby steps.
  • You make people boring or interesting. If you are interested, they are interesting.
  • Speak impeccably by only adding positive energy by not bringing yourself or anyone else down.
  • Playing music stimulates the part of your brain that processes emotion so playing a musical instrument may improve your EQ.
  • Building trust and rapport: validation of ones beliefs and decisions and aspirations. When people talk about themselves and their goals, etc. dopamine is released in their brain. So when you embrace their feelings and perspectives, rather than challenge or judge them, rapport and trust is built.

Charisma and Attraction

  • Deepen Voice
    • 1.Breath from diaphram
    • 2.Strengthen neck muscles at all angles of neck
    • 3.Tilt head back to stretch vocal cords while humming or saying Ding-dong
    • 4.Ground pound while holding mouth open to relax throat muscles
    • 5.Roll out stomach and Psoas muscle
    • 6.Note: We associate deep voices with power (studies have shown presidents with deeper voices get elected).
  • Change the tone (up, down, emphasize) as you speak to appear more interesting and invoke more interest from people. 
  • Impression Management: Frequency trumps duration when it comes to attracting people. Have multiple encounters with them. This applies to business networking and romance.
  • The one thing people want more than love is to feel accepted. Make them feel accepted to get all from them, including their closest kept information.
  • Presence, Power, Warmth.
  • Expressiveness: variability in the tone/speed/etc. in which you speak, tailoring it to your audience after reading the audience.
  • Pausing within sentences signifies the importance of what you are saying, or so you believe.
  • Note: reading rich literary fiction has been shown to increase one’s empathy and emotional intelligence (and by my hypothesis, watching rich, relationship dynamic heavy shows!). Researchers David Comer Kidd and Emanuele Castano have shown that reading fiction helps you to develop a Theory of Mind for other people.
  • Mystery / Personality Paradoxes
    • Strength (confidence, posture, etc.) and warmth (smiling, vulnerability, etc.) are the two most effective trait couples for charisma 
  • Presence: Being Present and Engaged
  • Make people feel special, such as by answering the phone in a even keel, then ramp up the excitement immediately after hearing them.
  • Tango, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, and yoga are great ways to teach you power by taking up space.
  • Charisma killers: anxiety, aloofness. Good trick to remove anxiety is to visualize a greater force (God) lifting the weight off your shoulders and taking it on itself. By the time cognitive disbelief kicks in, you have already received the emotional benefit.

Romance / Women

Be assertive with women; don’t ask, tell.

Personality-revealing game: ask someone (most likely romantic prospect/partner) to close their eyes and visualize a big empty desert and describe in detail and it’s location in relation to the other items:

Relationships

  • 1.3 DAY TASK: DAY 1 Spend ten minutes writing about your deepest feelings about your current romantic relationship. Feel free to explore your emotions and thoughts. DAY 2 Think about someone that you know who is in a relationship that is in some way inferior to your own. Write three important reasons why your relationship is better than theirs. DAY 3 Write one important positive quality that your partner has, and explain why this quality means so much to you. Now write something that you consider to be a fault with your partner (perhaps something about his or her personality, habits, or behavior), and then list one way in which this fault could be considered redeeming or endearing.
  • 2.OBJECTS OF REMINDERS: Surrounding yourself with objects that remind you of your partner is good for your relationship. It could be something that you wear, such as a ring, pendant, or necklace. Or perhaps keep a gift from your partner on display in the home or office. Or maybe place a photograph of the two of you in a prominent location, or in a wallet or purse. Either way, remember that these objects are more than mere tokens of love; they also serve an important psychological function. Not only do they usually evoke happy memories and positive thoughts, but they also activate a deep-seated evolutionary mechanism that helps make temptation far less tempting.
  • 2.NOVELITY: Aron’s work suggests that long-term couples will feel more attracted to each other when they regularly engage in novel and exciting joint activities that involve working together to achieve a goal. This finding is supported by the results of several surveys showing that long-term couples who are happy in their relationships are more likely to take part in leisure activities that involve both partners and are relatively unpredictable, exciting, and active rather than passive. So regardless of whether it is playing a sport, amateur dramatics, rock climbing, visiting new places, learning a new dance, or traveling to novel vacation destinations, couples who face life’s foam obstacles together stick together.
  • 3.ADRENALINE/EXCITEMENT: To help promote the chances of a successful date, choose an activity that is likely to get the heart racing. Avoid slow-moving classical music concerts, countryside walks, and wind chimes. Instead, look toward suspense-filled films, theme parks, and cycle rides. The theory is that your date will attribute a racing heart to you rather than to the activity, and so convince themselves that you have that special something.
  • 4.COURAGE: It seems that when it comes to love, women value courage and a willingness to take risks over kindness and altruism. So instead of men making a special effort to woo women by describing their tireless work for charity, they should perhaps consider mentioning their love of skydiving, the importance of standing up for what you think is right, and following your heart no matter where it leads.
  • 5.GET THEM TO OPEN UP: think of lines that get the other person to talk about themselves in a creative, fun, and unusual way.
  • 6.MIMIC (within reason) the way they sit, how they use their hands, their speech patterns, their facial expressions.
  • 7.TOUCH: The results from both experiments were impressive. In the nightclub, women accepted the offer of a dance 43 percent of the time when not being touched on the arm and 65 percent after even the briefest of touches. In the street, the research team obtained telephone numbers from 10 percent of women with no physical contact and almost 20 percent when touching. In both cases a brief touch dramatically increased success.
  • 8.KISS EARS.
  • 9.To initiate touch: tell you her can read palms and take her hand then make up some flattering bullshit.
  • 10.Don’t change her mind, change her mood; to get your way, avoid logical argument.
  • 11.On the first date, ask her what her ideal relationship looks like. This will reveal your compatibility with her in large part.
  • 13. John Gray’s Advice
    • 1.7 days without sex for doubled testosterone and pheromones
    • 2.Give women oxytocin, done via:
      • 1.Giving her orgasm
      • 2.Doing what you say you will do which builds trust too ( gender-specific sales: follow through when you say you will with women)
    • 3.Little things, which go a long way (selective compliments, acts of kindness/generosity, etc.).
    • 4.Contain your negative emotions, even when she is asking for you to divulge. You have to be the emotional rock for her, so that she doesn’t become the mother and take care of you.
    • 5.Validate her feelings (instead of solving her problems, initially): when you recognize her being sad or mad (from the face micro expressions), two great questions are:
      • 1.“Do you want to talk through what happened”
      • 2.“How can I help?”
  • 15.A level of mystery, unpredictability, spontaneity, and independence makes you most attractive and charismatic (in all forms if relationships not just romance).
  • 16.Living with her before you marry her is statistically a bad idea (higher rate of divorce). This is because living with her increases your “contribution” which increases your level of commitment, irrespective of whether she is the right person for you.
  • 17.Do random nice or romantic things for your partner. We grow accustomed / numb / bored of what we habitually receive, so doing something randomly / unexpected for her will increase her perceived “treasure” from you, and thereby level of commitment.
  • 18.Wear nice shoes (leather) and dress well. Shoes most important.
  • 19.Mother’s influence of who she is: “The one thing I can tell you is that once you meet the girl you think you want to be with, get to know her mother and see how you like her as a person as well; there is more truth there than I can explain but trust me on that one.” – Pedro Rodriguez
  • 20.Eye contact: look at the bridge of her nose between her eyes instead of looking at one eye and then the other. The latter makes you appear as if you are looking for a reaction, but you want to be reacted to and it’s more intimate the other way. Even more intense / intimate is to stare into her right eye.
  • 21.The only thing better than confidence is BOLDNESS, which is the boldness to be honest and transparent to who you are and what you want. You are not afraid to be vulnerable. You claim the woman and what you want.
  • 22.Deliver penetrating insight
    • 1.“You have had many boyfriends, but I bet you have never felt truly seen or heard.”
  • 23.Compliment her inner beauty (too many guys comment on their physical appearance)
  • 24.Best first question for date: your last embarrassing moment? Look to see if they get embarrassed (averted eyes, pressed lips, blushing). Embarrassment indicates they care what others think.
  • 25.Women find 12% body fat to be most attractive for men.

Narcissism & Psychopathy

  • Sam Vaknin is the foremost expert on the subject
  • Causes: Abuse
    • All forms are valid and can contribute, physical, sexual, psychological, etc.
  • Excessive praise and demands: form of abuse as well, such as parents expecting/demanding their kid to reach a certain level of success. It sends the message that the kid is the tool and the parent is the owner; people are tools to enable our own self needs and interests.
  • Signs and Traits
    • Control freaks: They seek ownership over those close to them. They are paranoid and directly or indirectly demand subservience and adulation, aka narcissistic supply.
    • Calculated imitators: They are perfect imitations of normal people and calculate how to act to manipulate people. The very act of them showing emotion or self-humor is calculated to achieve an end with someone. As calculated optimizing machines, they are often very successful in the most influential arenas of society: media, entertainment, political office, corporate executives, etc.
  • Cluster of negative traits: One or two selfish or calculated acts does not make someone a narcissist or psychopath, but rather the full range of characteristics and manipulative actions.
  • Rage exposure under pressure / struggle: They will often show their their true colors when push comes to shove, where they will often exude some form of rage out of frustration for not receiving what they want.

Family

  • Raising Children
    • Praise them for effort not for being smart. Variable trait over fixed so when they fail, they feel they have recourse.
  • “It turns out that when I graduated from high school, I had already used up 93% of my in-person parent time. I’m now enjoying the last 5% of that time. We’re in the tail end.”

Dishonesty Detection / Reading People

  • PERSONALITY OF PET: For years, owners have insisted that their pets have a unique personality—not only does my research suggest they might be right, but it also reveals that people’s pets are a reflection of themselves. So if you meet someone who has a dog and you want to gain genuine insight into their personality within seconds, ask them to describe the personality of their canine pal.
  • Face micro expressions: are hardwired into us (study showed blind babies have the same face mircro expressions, proving it is not learned or a cultural idiosyncrasy, and thus very reliable of someone’s true emotional state.
  • Inconsistencies in their story / telling of the chain of events.
  • Inconsistencies in behavior.
    • Acting strong or aggressive when you are weak. Vice versa.
    • Shaking or tapping of extremities indicates discomfort or lying.
    • Half smirk indicates you are hiding something after you call them out and expose them. Ex. “You have the flush, don’t you?”
    • Pursed lips when stressed is very common.
    • If eyes move to their left, they are recalling facts. If they move right, they most likely are making things up or embellishing details.
    • Formal language and distancing or disassociating yourself from the object. Instead of claiming ownership, by using words like mine, ours, etc. you use words like that, this, etc.
      • Ex. “I did not have sexual relations with that woman”
    • Looking you in the eyes too much to overcompensate the notion of not looking you in the eyes indicates deception.
    • .A real smile is in someone’s eyes / crows feet, not just consciously controlling ones cheeks.
    • Contempt: the facial expression is one corner of you lip raised. It is the only asymmetrical facial expression.
    • Change in vocal chord.
  • Have the suspected liar to tell the events in reverse chronological order which makes it very challenging for them. They may give too little or too much detail as they squirm to give a trustworthy impression. However, don’t be too aggressive. Massage them into telling the truth.
  • Try to change his/her mind of your expectations/desires. They are lying because they think you will think something is bad or good, so they may be more willing to tell the truth if he/she thinks you will judge them differently than they once thought.
  • IN 59 SECONDS Body Language For successful lie detection, jettison the behavioral myths surrounding the Anxiety Hypothesis and look for signs more commonly associated with having to think hard. Forget the idea that liars have sweaty palms, fidget, and avoid eye contact. Instead, look for a person suddenly becoming more static and cutting down on their gestures. Also, learn to listen. Be on guard for a sudden decrease in detail, an increase in pauses and hesitations, and an avoidance of the words “me,” “mine,” and “I” but an increase in “her” and “him.” If someone suddenly becomes very evasive, press for a straight answer. To spot possible shifts, try to establish what researchers have referred to as an “honest baseline.” Before asking questions that are likely to elicit deceptive answers, start with those that are far more likely to make the person respond in an honest way. During these initial answers, develop an understanding of how they behave when they are telling the truth by looking at their body language and listening to the words they say. Then, during the answers to the trickier questions, watch for the behavioral shifts outlined above. Also, remember that even if you do see these signals, they are not an absolute guarantee of a lie. Unlike taxes and death, nothing is that certain when it comes to lying. Instead, such clues are simply an indication that all is perhaps not as it should be—a good reason to dig deeper.
  • People will often cheat by a little bit (in a simple game). They will cheat less when reminded of morality, will cheat more when they see an in group member cheat,  will cheat less when they see an out group member cheat, and will cheat more when the distance from the cheating is increased (example issue faulty securities rather than just steal peoples money directly).

Quotes – Elite

Humorous Quotes

“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.” – Oscar Wilde
Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.” – Oscar Wilde
When I was young, I thought money was the most important thing in life; now that I am old, I know that it is. – Oscar Wilde
I have the simplest tastes. I am always satisfied with the best. Oscar Wilde
“I’m sorry I was born with this perfect bone structure, that my hair looks better done up with gel and mouse than hidden under a stupid hat with a light on it.” -Zoolander to his father

The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.
“Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory. Tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat.”
-Sun Tzu, The Art of War
“A friend to everyone is a friend to no one”
“Play the game, not the score” -Derek Jeter
“We have two choices in life: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret” -Eric Mangini
“A man who doesn’t stand for something will fall for anything.”
“A real man loves his wife, and places his family as the most important thing in life” -Frank Abagnale Jr.
“Enter to learn, go forth to serve”
-Mr. Ceran
“There is no pressure when you’re prepared” -Jabrill Peppers
“Go into the world and do well. But more importantly, go into the world and do good”
-Minor Myers
“If you ever want to do something great in the world, you must first realize that you’re just a blade of grass”
-Mr. Ceran
“The opposite of courage is conformity”
“It’s the start that stops most people”
“You get what you give”
“Solo los que se arriesgan a ir muy lejos, saben lo lejos que pueden ir”
-Alvaro Correa Gallardo
“Success is measured by where you are versus where you could be”
“Those that mind, don’t matter. Those that matter, don’t mind”
-Dr. Suess
Just because it glitters doesn’t mean it’s gold.
“Some people like my advice so much that they frame it upon the wall instead of using it.” -Gordon R. Dickson
If you want self-esteem, do esteemable things.
“To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
“The acquisition of riches has been for many men, not an end, but a change, of troubles.”
-Epicurus
“Hard choices, easy life. Easy choices, hard life.” – Jerzy Gregorek
“If you bring forth what is within you, it will save you; if you do not bring forth what is within you, it will destroy you.”
“Have more than you show and speak less than you know.” – Shakespeare
“To the world, you may be one person. But to one person, you may be the world.”
“Don’t wait for your break, make your break. Go make it happen for yourself.”
 – Charlie Day
Jim Rohn — ‘We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.
“A man is as loyal as his options.”
The great historian Will Durant says in “The Lessons Of History”: “The second biological lesson of history is that life is selection. In the competition for food or mates or power some organisms succeed and some fail. In the struggle for existence some individuals are better equipped than others to meet the tests of survival. Since Nature has not read very carefully the American Declaration of Independence or the French Revolutionary Declaration of the Rights of Man, we are all born unfree and unequal: subject to our physical and psychological heredity, and to the customs and traditions of our group; diversely endowed in health and strength, in mental capacity and qualities of character…Inequality is not only natural and inborn, it grows with the complexity of civilization…every invention or discovery is made or seized by the exceptional individual, and makes the strong stronger, the weak relatively weaker, than before.”
“Too soon old, too late smart.”
Just because it glimmers, doesn’t mean it’s gold.  – Shakespeare origin
“Don’t try to teach a pig to fly. It doesn’t work, and it bothers the pig.”
Most people are in a dark cave and can’t see the light. – Plato

Will Durant: “A nation is born stoic, and dies epicurean”

“Father Time is undefeated.” In the end, he gets all of us.
“Make war with an army of counselors.”
“The more you learn, the more you earn.” Warren Buffet
“Damned by faint praise.”
“A fence that goes up fast, falls down fast.”
“Leave every person you come in contact with with the impression of increase.” – Wallace Wattles
Translation: Look to find ways to help them, rather than find ways to get something from them. Make them feel good after having come in contact with you via value-add, genuine compliments, help, etc.
“Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.”
“There are thousands and thousands of people out there leading lives of quiet, screaming desperation, where they work long, hard hours at jobs they hate to enable them to buy things they don’t need to impress people they don’t like.” – Nigel Marsh
“What you do speaks so loudly that I can’t hear a word you say.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Memento Mori: remember your mortality
Harold Coffin: “Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.”
“The extra mile is never crowded”
“Honesty, integrity, and vulnerability are expensive gifts. Don’t expect them from cheap people.”
We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same. —Carlos Castaneda
Vague beginnings invite chaotic endings.
“Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.”
novelist Evelyn Waugh wrote, “Punctuality is the virtue of the bored,”
“The road is always better than the inn.” [Cervantes] j
“Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.” – John R. Wooden
Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
“Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.”
It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking than vice versa.
Don’t be a spectator in any context go do something Jarrod Carmichael
Pressure is a privilege.
A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy? Albert Einstein
Look at your past but don’t stare.
 “Have nothing in your house you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” – William Morris
“He or she who is willing to be the most uncomfortable is not only the bravest but rises the fastest.”
– Brené Brown
“Nothing in life is as important as you think it is while you are thinking about it.”
“It’s so hard to forget pain, but it’s even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.”
Chuck Palahniuk, Diary
“Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.”
―Terry Pratchett, A Hat Full of Sky
Rather than love rather than fame rather than money, give me truth.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”―Leo Tolstoy
If you don’t know where you’re going, any train will get you there.
Pablo Picasso once said, “When I work, I relax; doing nothing or entertaining visitors makes me tired.”
People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing everyday.
The unlived life is not worth examining. (Balance is key in every quote).
“Invention requires a long-term willingness to be misunderstood.” – Jeff Bezos
“Timing has a lot to do with the outcome of a rain dance.”
The thief will always be suspicious.
  “At first they will ask WHY you are doing it, But later they will ask HOW you did it”
“The creative adult  is the child who survived”
“Champions don’t have a panic button.”
For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? —Jesus
“If you don’t manage modern life, it will manage you.”
Every passing moment is another chance to turn it all around.
Everything you do has your name on it.
“If I could make a living out of loving you.  I’d be a millionaire in a week or two”
Anonymous country singer
They say ski’s the limit. How bitch? I’m moonwalkin’
Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it. – Andy Warhol
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
~Eleanor Roosevelt
They never knew who I thought I was supposed to be.
The only ship that sinks is a partnership.
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right.
“If you choose not to decide, you have still made a choice.” – Eugene Berman
Jacob Needleman observed, it’s good to keep an open mind, but not so open that your brains fall out.
“If you don’t make mistakes, you’re not working on hard enough problems. And that’s a big mistake.” – Frank Wilczek, 2004 Nobel Prize winner
Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.
“The best thinking has been done in solitude.” ~ Thomas A. Edison
“There are many things of which a wise man might wish to be ignorant.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Part of success is bringing others with you.
The best things in life are free. The second best things are very, very expensive.
“It’s the start that stops most people”.
We don’t stop playing when we grow old, we grow old when we stop playing.
“You’re a living magnet and you inevitably attract into your life, the people, circumstances, ideas, and resources in harmony with your dominant thoughts.” – Brian Tracy
Put effort in, and it’s effortless out.
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” – George Bernard Shaw
If you don’t stand for anything, you’ll fall for anything.”
“Perfection is not when there is no more to add, but no more to take away.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Little hinges swing big doors.
Stress is type A language for fear.  Tony Robbins.
Goethe taught, “Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be.”
“I seek truth wherever I can get it.” Brett Bouer
“If you don’t make mistakes, you’re not working on hard enough problems. And that’s a big mistake.”
Judgement without further investigation leads a person blind.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” – Bernard Baruch
“A mistake is a future benefit, the full value of which is yet to be realized” – Edwin Land
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care
“All courses of action are risky, so prudence is not in avoiding danger (it’s impossible), but calculating risk and acting decisively. Make mistakes of ambition and not mistakes of sloth. Develop the strength to do bold things, not the strength to suffer.”
– Niccolo Machiavelli,The Prince
John Maxwell has written, “You cannot overestimate the unimportance of practically everything.”
“I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own abhorrence.”―Frederick Douglass
Hope is not a strategy. Luck is not a factor. Failure is not an option.
Don’t believe everything you think.
She wasn’t where she had been. She wasn’t where she’s going, but she was on her way…”
Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
“I will find a way, or make one.”
“A mistake is a future benefit, the full value of which is yet to be realized.” – Edwin Land, the inventor of the Polaroid camera,:
Benjamin Disraeli said, “Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours.”
“Many a false step was made by standing still.”
Never let your memories be bigger than your dreams.
“The problem with the world is that the intelligent peopleare full of doubts, while thestupidones are full ofconfidence.”
“As to methods there may be a million and then some, but principles are few. The man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods, ignoring principles, is sure to have trouble.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Teamwork to make the dream work
“Do your own thinking independently. Be the chess player, not the chess piece.” – Ralph Charell
Pretend that every single person you meet has a sign around his or her neck that says, ‘Make me feel important.’ Not only will you succeed in sales, you will succeed in life.
It’s what you learn after you already know it all that counts – John wooden
Money buys the things love can’t. -Gene Simmons
If You Want To Go Fast, Go Alone. If You Want To Go Far, Go Together
Don’t become a wandering generality. Be a meaningful specific.
Everything works out in the end. And if things aren’t working out then it’s not the end. – John Lennon
Colin Wilson — ‘The average man is a conformist, accepting miseries and disasters with the stoicism of a cow standing in the rain.’
Understanding how to act under conditions of incomplete information is the highest and most urgent human pursuit. —Nassim Taleb, The Black Swan
The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your arm.
The world is full of willing people, some willing to work, and the rest, willing to let them.
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”
-John Lennon
The Gambler (During the Great Depression, there was a man who walked into a bar one day…)

The Gambler (During the Great Depression, there was a man who walked into a bar one day…)

One of my favorite humorous stories with multiple morals to be interpreted, as the best stories always are! Make the best of what you’ve got. Turn weaknesses into strengths and advantages. Master presentation and social situations. All are not as they seem. Be curious, don’t be certain of others. Question your level of certainty, as the penalty for error may be beyond what you can afford. Having poor pissing accuracy really isn’t a problem.


The Gambler

During the Great Depression, there was a man who walked into a bar one day. He went up to the bartender and said, “Bartender, I’d like to buy the house a round of drinks.”

The bartender said, “That’s fine, but we’re in the middle of the Depression, so I’ll need to see some money first.”

The guy pulled out a huge wad of bills and set them on the bar. The bartender can’t believe what he’s seeing. “Where did you get all that money?” asked the bartender.
“I’m a professional gambler,” replied the man.
The bartender said, “There’s no such thing! I mean, your odds are fifty-fifty at best, right?”
“Well, I only bet on sure things,” said the guy.
“Like what?” asked the bartender.
“Well, for example, I’ll bet you fifty dollars that I can bite my right eye,” he said.
The bartender thought about it. “Okay,” he said.
So, the guy pulled out his false right eye and bit it. “Aw, you screwed me,” said the bartender, and paid the guy his $50.
“I’ll give you another chance. I’ll bet you another fifty dollars that I can bite my left eye,” said the stranger.
The bartender thought again and said, “Well, I know you’re not blind, I mean, I watched you walk in here. I’ll take that bet.” So, the guy pulled out his false teeth and bit his left eye.
“Aw, you screwed me again!” protested the bartender.
“That’s how I win so much money, bartender. I’ll just take a bottle of your best scotch in lieu of the fifty dollars,” said the man.
With that, the guy went to the back room and spent the better part of the night playing cards with some of the locals. After many hours of drinking and card playing, he stumbled up to the bar. Drunk as a skunk, he said, “Bartender, I’ll give you one last chance. I’ll bet you five hundred dollars that I can stand on this bar on one foot and piss into that whiskey bottle on that shelf behind you without spilling a drop.”
The bartender once again pondered the bet. The guy couldn’t even stand up straight on two feet, much less one. “Okay, you’re on,” he said.
The guy climbed up on the bar, stood on one leg, and began pissing all over the place. He hit the bar, the bartender, himself, but not a drop made it into the whiskey bottle.
The bartender was ecstatic. Laughing, the bartender said, “Hey pal, you owe me five hundred dollars!”
The guy climbed down off the bar and said, “That’s okay. I just bet each of the guys in the card room a thousand bucks each that I could piss all over you and the bar and still make you laugh!”